January, 2018

 
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@Ren_Kylo

Dear Jedi,

 

 

Remember I was ghosted a few months back? Feels like such a long time ago, in a galaxy far away, right? Anyhow, I was considering texting her again. But like, I don’t wanna be one of those guys that keeps texting her and it’s just like, “Hey man, take the hint!”

But why would she make plans then cancel, THEN ghost? It doesn’t make sense. Is she playing the games? Is she just flakey? Does she secretly want me to text her and see if she wants to binge watch Farscape?

I don’t wanna be that guy, but I also don’t want it to fizzle because she thinks I’m not interested anymore. I don’t know, I need your help! Help me Jedi, you’re my only hope!
 

Thanks,

Ben

 


@Ask_A_Jedi

Dear Ben,

There’s something to be said for her reaching out after you were the last one to text. At the same time, perhaps she’s just shy. If this is all part of the games as you call it, maybe that is indicative of a lack of maturity and you should steer clear. Afterall, immaturity is a common path to the dark side.

It’s been a few months already, I don’t see the harm in reconnecting, or at least attempting. Perhaps a simple, “Hi, what’s up? It’s been a while, wanna go to the Mos Eisley Cantina some time?” would suffice. Just try to manage expectations. Sometimes even the chosen one turns to the dark side for 3 whole movies!

So, in summation, it’s been a while, go for it. But if she continues the ghost, perhaps it’s time to move on, change things up, build something different besides another Death Star, ya know?

Hope that was helpful, good luck with everything Ben. And to all the loyal readers, this is now three in a row from Ben, let’s get some other peeps in the mix!

All the best

Love,

Ask A Jedi

 
Louie Aronowitz